A single mom does double the work to make sure her kids have everything they need. And that’s probably the hardest part about dating her. Sure, she’s tough as a nut but to be fair, she also has a lot to deal with, trying to figure how to squeeze romance into a schedule packed with official deadlines and parent-teacher meetings. So if you are crushing on a single mom, here are 15 things she wants you to know.
1. Being a single mom is a tough job. With double the responsibilities and no one to share the burden with, you’re going to have to put in extra effort and adjust.
2. Loneliness is her friend. Sure she’s got a kid for company but conversations with a seven-year-old sometimes aren’t enough. You’re going to have to help her out of it.
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3. She’s got little free time. So don’t waste it on trivial things. Make it worth her while; the clock is always ticking for her.
4. Her kids are going to be there in the picture… always! Deal with it. Or learn to make them part of your plans.
5. This is not going to be the conventional romantic relationship. It’ll never be like the other cute, cuddly relationships, so don’t compare. If you want normal, you are probably in the wrong place.
6. All her decisions will be made after taking into consideration her kids and you just have to come to terms with that.
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7. With all the things she has on her hands, there may be times when she wants to shout out loud or yell like a maniac. And you may have to bear the brunt even without being remotely involved.
8. Liking the kids isn’t the same as raising them. Don’t ever tell her how to take care of her kids because liking them is way different from raising them and you will only understand that when you have your own.
9. You may love her to the moon and back but that doesn’t mean you will get along with her kids too. Liking her and liking her kids are two different things. The latter might take more effort.
10. Her ex might still be in the picture. Don’t be jealous about it or make this a big issue. There could be divorce settlements and custody issues to deal with, or she might actually be on good terms with her ex. Either way, you’ve got to be supportive.
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11. Don’t get on the wrong side of the babysitter. Babysitters are those reliable people who will make it easier for you two to have a good time.
12. Kids will always be the priority. No matter how close you two get, her kids will always be her priority. There’s no way you’ll ever be able to compete.
13. It’s important for the kids to like you. Work on it and all else shall fall in place.
14. If you’re the single dude who’s interested in a single mother, it’s always going to be complicated. Don’t forget she’s raising a child, struggling to catch up on at least a year’s lost sleep and trying her hand at romance.
15. It’s not her fault. She might seem to forget about you completely sometimes or neglect you, but it’s not her fault. She’s got way too much to do, so cut her some slack.