6 Dating Tips for Shy Guys

6 Dating Tips for Shy Guys


Start the Countdown

Start the Countdown

If you read the comic strip “Peanuts,” you probably know about the little red-haired girl. She’s Charlie Brown’s unnamed, unseen dream girl. Charlie Brown worships her from a distance — a long distance. The few times he gets up the nerve to approach her, something gets in the way and messes things up. Usually, that something is Charlie Brown.

[contentblock id=1 img=adsense.png]

A lot of guys can sympathize, some more than others. For chronically shy guys, every girl is that little red-haired girl. And unlike the comics, it’s no laughing matter. While we can’t cure shyness in five easy lessons, we can give you five tips for overcoming your inner Charlie Brown — five strategies to boost your confidence.

Look for Like-minded Mates

Look for Like-minded Mates

Having common interests or shared circumstances makes it easier to break the ice, and you’re more likely to pick events that you’ll both enjoy. Is there a classmate who loves Civil War history as much as you do? A coworker whose spread in “Farmville” is even bigger than yours? There’s your cue. If you’re not a member of a group or club, consider joining one. Unless it’s a fantasy football league or something similar, you’ll probably meet a fair number of females. If you get to see each other in ordinary situations, that might be even better. When you clean cages at the animal shelter with someone, worrying about impressing her on a date seems kind of pointless.

Read More: Smart Dating Tips With Married Boss

Stay Within Your Comfort Zone

 Comfort Zone

Until you gain more confidence in yourself and the relationship, look for situations where you know your way around. That doesn’t mean you have to go to the same restaurant every time. Just don’t go to a grill-your-own steakhouse if you’re clueless about cooking. Pick an informal, open-ended event with no set agenda, like a street fair. If you and she “click,” suggest a more intimate but nonthreatening follow-up: coffee at a popular restaurant, say, rather than a walk in a quiet park. On the other hand, stay open to ideas that stretch a little beyond the tried and true. Trust your date not to suggest something where you’d really feel lost or bored — she wants to have a good time, too!

[contentblock id=2 img=adsense.png]

Prepare (but Don’t Rehearse)

Prepare (but Don't Rehearse)

Take reasonable steps to avoid any surprises. Scout the place out and do a run-through. Find out how much money you’ll need for food, tickets or souvenirs. It also helps to have a backup plan. Check with your date first, however. You may think the auto show is a fine Plan B if you can’t score tickets to the art exhibit — your date, not so much. After that, loosen up. Don’t script the whole date. Think of the best times you’ve had with your friends. Did you have a program of planned events with predetermined starting and ending times? Unless you’re thinking back to your sixth birthday party, probably not.

Read More: Tips For Men Dating First Time

Don’t Expect Perfection

Don't Expect Perfection

Suppose you’re enjoying a really good hamburger. Would you lose your appetite because you think it could use more onions? It’s the same with dating. You can both have a good time even if your haircut looks nerdy and you don’t get her jokes. But suppose the burger is burned beyond edibility. Do you mope over the charred beef or chow down the tasty fries? Likewise, getting lost on your way to a destination could be a humiliating disaster (“I’m so sorry! I guess you never want to see me again”) — or a chance to show grace under pressure (“We missed the start of the movie. But I hear there’s a cool show at the planetarium . The choice is yours.

[contentblock id=3 img=adsense.png]

Make It About Her

Make It About Her

If you’ve been reading between the lines, you see this is the essence of a good date. Smile when you see her. Compliment her hair. If it’s raining, offer to drop her off at the door. Ask her questions; listen to her answers. It flatters her and takes the focus off you. But don’t make her feel like a “CSI: Miami” suspect. Try comments that encourage a response without demanding one: “It sounds like you really like your job,” or “I can’t wait for winter to end.” When it’s your turn, avoid making yourself sound like a superhero. When you’re with guys, bragging is almost expected; to women it’s a turn-off. A little modesty makes you look a lot better.

Join over 30,000 visitors who are receiving our newsletter and regular updates about Bollywood directly in their Inbox.
We hate spam. Your email address will not be sold or shared with anyone else.