The relationship between children and parents is the purest on earth. However, the beauty of this relationship damages when the children are not fairly treated by their parents.
Most of the times, we are talking about dealing with children in certain situations, but when parents start creating differences among siblings, it’s the time to discuss how to deal with parents. Children are the happiest when they receive love and appreciation from their parents, but some parents create differences among siblings through their treatment which can result in severe personality damages in children.
Children who face differences among siblings by their parents are more likely to develop serious issues like depression, low self-esteem and to have trouble in school. Children themselves cannot handle the burden of handling such unfair parents. If there are some parents you know are creating differences among siblings, gently intervene in the situation. Following are some of the strategies which can help you in finding out how to deal with parents behaving unfairly with their children:
- Listen and Explain
Parents may themselves not recognize that they are creating differences among siblings by playing favorites with their children. You can handle the situation by telling parents to improve their relationship with their children by listening to them to understand what they need from them. Children who are facing the situation of differences among siblings feel unaccepted and unworthy. It is important for parents to realize how they are contributing to their child’s feelings.
- Language and Actions
Sometimes language can be an important factor in creating differences among siblings, while on the other hand actions can be louder than words. Both language and actions play a significant role in every relationship. In many situations the language used by parents can create differences among siblings by inadvertently conveying favoritism. You can recommend such parents to listen to how they talk to their kids and to be aware of any words and actions that can create differences among siblings. Parents should distribute their praise and anger evenly with their children so that their relationship grows stronger.
- Find Common Interests
One way to make the relationship stronger and closer with children is to figure out activities they enjoy in common. Parents who create difference among siblings might have more common interests with their favorite child. However, it is important for the growth of mutual relationship that parents should look for activities that all can enjoy.